Online Life Coach for Marriage

Online Life Coach for Marriage

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Searching for an Online Life Coach for Marriage? So what too often happens is that even the most earnest and committed couples are forced to come to marriage counseling inconsistently. And that is a problem. Because usually (obviously) when couples start marriage counseling it’s because they are not in a good place.

When couples start marriage counseling they are often struggling against a cycle of negative reactions to each other. Someone takes offense to something someone else said or did, and reacts negatively, and then the other person reacts negatively to the first person’s negative reaction, which elicits more negativity.

I don’t have to explain — if you’ve been married for more than two weeks, you know what I’m talking about. At any rate, these negative cycles are powerful. They can take on a life of their own, and be difficult to stop without consistent support from a marriage counselor. This is especially true in the beginning stages of marriage counseling, when people are still reeling from not-so-great experiences and not sure they are emotionally safe with each other. Without regular meetings, negative cycles flare up between sessions and the fragile healing work that’s been accomplished is undone.

So ideally, people are able to come to marriage counseling weekly in the beginning. Having these regular appointments allows a couple to keep the new ideas they are learning in our sessions fresh in their mind, and they are having at least weekly, new, good experiences with each other that helps change the trajectory of their interactions. If I can meet with a couple weekly for even 8-12 weeks, ever week, I can help them make amazing, lasting changes to their marriage.

But if a couple comes in for 8 or 12 sessions over the course of six months, meeting once every couple weeks or three …not so much. In
the time between appointments the fragile changes I’m helping the couple make collapse back into the old negative patterns. Every session feels like starting over, and we spend half the time soothing new hurts before we can circle back around to the growth work again.

I explain it to people that marriage counseling appointments are kind of like telephone poles that are holding wires off the ground. Closer together poles keep the wires firm and high. Too much distance and they sag to the ground.